So let’s talk about selfies. They’re either for you or they’re not. You love ’em or you hate ’em. Or maybe it’s even true that you are that rare person who falls somewhere in the middle and doesn’t have much of an opinion on them. You could take ’em or leave ’em.
Well, me personally, I quite enjoy taking and posting selfies for a few different reasons. Often I do a lot of traveling. I take little trips, go on random adventures, explore, go sightseeing, etc. More often than not, I travel alone. It’s just a bit easier not having to coordinate schedules or different tastes with others, and to just pick up and go somewhere on one of my random days off. Of course, it’s fun to take pictures when traveling and it’s fun to take selfies just for the plain fact of documenting that I visited, saw and experienced something cool :). Fair enough.
Well, the other reason I enjoy taking and posting selfies actually has to do with my self-confidence and self-esteem, believe it or not. I, like many many MANY other women, have struggled with self confidence and self esteem ever since I hit adolescence. My issue has to do with not necessarily disliking myself, physical features, or personality traits, but from comparing myself to other people. What can I say, I’m a Type A first-born. OCD were the first letters I learned lol. Kidding! Kind of 😉 But ever since my mid-20s though, I have really been working on breaking this very bad habit of mine. Because it’s a terrible one! Whenever I catch myself doing it, I redirect myself. Also, my mother is an expert in catching me doing this and calls me out on it, which is also helpful for me to break the habit😊. In a weird way, anytime I take and post a selfie it’s sort of a self-declaration to *myself* (and yes, others) that in this moment, this is me. This is me, fully. This is me, being. This is me, here and now in this moment. It’s a sort of a practice in declaration.
It’s also a practice in Letting Go…once something is posted, yes, you can delete it but it’s out there and you sort of can’t undo it. I once saw a movie or show on TV but for the life of me I can’t remember what it’s called. There’s a scene in it where a middle-aged woman, confident in herself, is walking through a mall and a salesman tries to sell her some kind of makeup or facial cream. She just keeps on walking, feathers completely unruffled, and says something to the effect of, “honey, this is my face. Deal with it.” YES! I love this attitude lol. And honestly it’s the attitude I take towards *myself* : this is your face. Deal with it. Or rather, “this is YOU. Embrace it, enjoy it, like it, love it, appreciate it, etc. For me, and perhaps for others too, posting selfies is a small (albeit significant for me) little step in the process of improving my self-image and in turn, my self-confidence and self-esteem. It’s a declaration. It’s not about the “Likes” it’s about me liking it. As corny as it sounds, for me it’s true. Plus, it’s an expression of my many moods. I often post goofy selfies when I’m trying not to take myself so seriously because being goofy is a big part of my personality. A selfie is also “proof” of something as well lol. See below (Hint: you’ll want to read the captions).
And guys honestly I LOVE seeing nearly all the pictures my Facebook friends post, selfies or not. I am not a parent but very much enjoy children so I loooove seeing my friends post pictures of their little ones or post stories about daily life with them. Of course, there is such a thing as over-sharing and we all know that one person… but for reals, I love seeing things that declare others’ joy and happiness, whether it be a selfie, a picture of my friends’ kiddos, a funny story about raising kids, all the family-holiday photos, etc. Anything. Furthermore, if you are going on a neat date with your significant other? Cool. Do post it. You got a new haircut, new outfit, feeling sexy wanna post a selfie “just because”? Seriously go for it. Had something awesome happen to you and want to share? Please do. Pulled off an amazing recipe/having a wonderful meal? Definitely post that ish. There isn’t such a thing as too much of a good thing, in my humble opinion. I don’t think we should get down on each other. I think we do that wwwwaaaaaaaayyyyyyyyy too much already. Plus, the amazing thing about social media is that if something bugs you or is not your thing, keep on scrollin’ baby. 👍
So if selfies are your thing, please, post away. If they are not, no worries. But imma be over here, posting away doing my thing. Hopefully I can control myself and you won’t be seeing me posting selfies of the duck-lip variety🦆👄📸😂🤣😆
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